Essay about Teaching Children Respect
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Teaching Children Respect
Americans has placed too much responsibility on schools and teachers. Parents need to take command of the moral development of their children, starting with the issue of respect.
Respect starts at an early age. You teach a child to say thank you, no thank you, and please. These are normal and common first steps to respect and are considered being manner able. Most parents expect there children to use these courteous phrases to them, their selves, the parent.
Teachers and schools should not have to be responsible for teaching your child manners, common courtesy, nor respect. It is hard enough for teachers to maintain a learning curriculum on general studies let alone moral, ethics and values. Teachers…show more content…
Teachers can only assume so much responsibility because we only have control over so much. Until teachers can contribute to the budget of the school, to the rule and regulations of school, to the hiring and firing in the school, until we are empowered to do that, don’t hold me accountable. Because I have no way of changing what I have to work with. I can’t change the fact that there’s no money for the books that I need. If I can’t change what’s in the home, I can’t change the [Child] who comes to school. I take my work very seriously, but until those things are corrected, I do not want to hear about people holding me accountable. (Susan Lloyd, Alabama)
I believe that teachers do not quiet command the respect they did 30 years ago. People question teachers sometimes, and parents do not back them up quiet as much as they used to. This is true, and it’s too bad. But it is true. (Ruth Jean Andersen, Kansas) As a substitute pre-school teacher through fifth-grade, I can honestly say that I have had my hands full with trying to establish common ground and behavior issues from students and it certainly is hard to set and make examples when you have other children with little guidance from home disrupt your class because of their attitudes and actions. They feel that if it is ok to disrespect their parents and others outside of school it is ok for them to do it at school as well. With pre-school up to 2nd grade it is easy to fit manners and other
To all the parents of Balaclava school – thanks again for having me in to speak at your school. I mentioned to a few parents that I had a list of age appropriate jobs and responsibilities that children can do to contribute to the functioning of the family.
Why do I keep harping on giving children jobs? Because beleive it or not, children need to feel USEFUL. In fact, all people have to feel as though they are being helpful and making a contribution. When a person participates and does a job or gives of their time and talents it creates a sense of affiliation and belonging that is the sticky glue that pulls a group together. Since the urbanization of society, children have been asked to do less and less for the family. No more collecting the eggs or milking the cows. Today’s children are often nothing more than inert tumors on the family! They only experience take take take with out any of the lovely benefits that come from GIVING back in. Children who have responsibilities to the family develop a sense of their importance, belonging and their self -esteem grows as their competencies grow. So check it out. How are your kids doing?
Here is the check list thanks to Marion Balla of the Adlerian Counselling Centre in Ottawa Canada.
HOME RESPONSIBILITIES FOR A 2 and 3 YEAR OLD
- Pick up unused toys and put in the proper place.
- Put books and magazines in a rack.
- Sweep the floor.
- Place napkins, plates and silverware on the table. The silver is on but not correctly at first.
- Clean up what they drop after eating.
- Given a choice of two foods for breakfast. Learning to make simple decisions.
- Toilet training.
- Simple hygiene -brush teeth, wash and dry hands and brush hair.
- Undress self – dresses with some help.
- Wipes up own accidents.
- Carrying boxed or canned goods from the grocery sacks to the proper shelf. Putting some things away on a lower shelf.
- Clears own place at the table. Puts the dishes on the counter after cleaning the leftovers off the plate.
HOME RESPONSIBILITIES FOR A 4 YEAR OLD
- Setting the table.
- Put the groceries away.
- Help with grocery shopping and compile a grocery list.
- Follow a schedule for feeding pets.
- Help do yard and garden work.
- Help make the beds and vacuum.
- Help do the dishes or fill the dishwasher.
- Spreading butter on sandwiches.
- Preparing cold cereal.
- Help parent prepare plates of food for the family dinner.
- Make a simple dessert (add topping to cupcakes, jello, pour the toppings on ice cream)
- Hold the hand mixer to whip potatoes or mix up a cake.
- Share toys with friends (practice courtesy).
- Getting the mail.
- Tell parent his/her whereabouts before going out to play.
- Should be able to play without constant adult supervision and attention.
- Hanging socks, handkerchiefs and washclothes on a lower line.
- Bringing the milk from the fridge.
- Sharpen pencils.
HOME RESPONSIBILITIES FOR 5 and 6 YEAR OLD
- Help with the meal planning and grocery shopping.
- Making own sandwich or simple breakfast. Then cleaning up.
- Pouring own drink.
- Preparing the dinner table.
- Tearing up lettuce for the salad.
- Putting in certain ingredients to a recipe.
- Making bed and cleaning room.
- Dressing on own and choosing outfit for the day.
- Scrubbing the sink, toilet and bathtub.
- Cleaning mirrors and windows.
- Separate clothing for washing. Putting white clothes in one separate pile and colored in another.
- Fold clean clothes and put them away.
- Answer the telephone and dial the phone for use.
- Yard work.
- Paying for small purchases.
- Taking out the garbage
- Feeding his/her pets and cleaning their living area.
HOME RESPONSIBILITIES FOR 7 YEAR OLD
- Oil and care for bike and lock it when unused.
- Take phone messages and write it down.
- Run errands for parents.
- Water the lawn.
- Proper care for bike and other outside toy or equipment.
- Wash dog or cat.
- Train pets.
- Carry in the grocery sacks.
- Get self up in the morning with an alarm clock. Do preparations for bedtime on his/her own and then involve parent.
- Learning to be polite, courteous and to share: respect others.
- Responsibilities like carrying own lunch money and notes back to school.
- Leave the bathroom in order: hang up clean towels.
HOME RESPONSIBILITIES FOR 8-9 YEAR OLD
- Fold napkins properly and set silverware properly.
- Mop the floor.
- Help rearrange furniture. Help plan the layout.
- Run own bath water.
- Help others with their work when asked.
- Straighten own closet and drawers.
- Shop for and select own clothing and shoes with parents.
- Fold blankets.
- Sew buttons.
- Sew rips in seams.
- Clean up animal “messes” in the yard and house.
- Begin to read recipes and cook for the family.
- Baby sit for short periods of time with adults present.
- Get items ready for a barbeque (charcoal, hamburgers).
- Painting fence or shelves.
- Help write simple letters.
- Help with defrosting and cleaning of the refrigerator.
HOME RESPONSIBILITIES FOR 9-10 YEAR OLD
- Change sheets on the bed and put dirty sheets in the hamper .
- Operating the washer and/or dryer.
- Measure detergent and bleach.
- Buying groceries using a list and comparative shopping.
- Crossing streets unassisted.
- Keeping own appointments (dentist, school, etc. and making them within bike distance).
- Preparing family meal.
- Pouring and making tea, coffee and kool-aid.
- Planning own birthday or other parties.
- Doing neighbourhood chores.
- Do chores without a reminder.
- Learning to use allowance wisely.
HOME RESPONSIBILITIES FOR 10-11 YEAR OLD
- Earn own money (baby-sit) as helper to adult.
- Able to take the city bus.
- Proper conduct when staying overnight with a friend.
- Packing own suitcase.
- Responsible for personal hobby.
- Able to handle self properly when in public places alone or with peers (movies).
- Responsible for a paper route.
- Borrow and return books to library.
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